welikrus

  Last week as I went through my phonebook, I saw the contact details of a few people who used to be my friends but who are not anymore. As I encountered one after another it got me thinking, ‘What really happened with these people?’ We had problems. Simple. We disagreed over an issue at some point and so we got angry at ourselves or one against the other and gradually we drifted apart. It could also have been guilt that made one party 'vanish'. For some, the hurt is still very much strong making cordial relationships impossible – just people tolerating one another simply because they must interact maybe because they are coworkers, family, or in the same religious or social organization. From an analysis of all the issues and troubles, I have observed that the anger is based mostly on 2 different kinds of hurt. The 1 st  are those hurts that need restitution. To appease the hurt, the other party will need to give up some material or tangible thing. For example, someone may be ...