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How Do People Experience You?

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Whenever I make hotel or other reservations online, one of the things I look out for is the rating and reviews by people who have stayed there. Naturally, I gravitate toward places with high ratings, as I expect that those places will provide a better experience than those with low ratings. But something interesting always stands out. Even the best-rated places get very low ratings as well. You would see a place with a high cumulative score of 9+ with a rating of less than 2 by some people. When you read the comments of such people, you will understand one simple truth: People experience the same place differently. No matter how much effort is made by service providers to standardize quality, experiences will always vary. The Same Is True for People As much as we wish and try to be consistent and present ourselves in a certain way, people will experience us differently. To some people you are kind and generous; to others, you are mean or even cruel. I remember a neighbor...
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From Trial and Error to Guided Growth: The Mentorship Advantage

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  I often think about this: If I knew years ago (10, 15, 20 or 30) what I know now, my journey in life would have been different.  I have also realized that all those years there were already people who knew what I know now. If only I had been connected to them, and they had helped me, I’d have made better decisions. Right now, I am intentionally looking for people ahead of me in all spheres of human endeavor. Sometimes, the path we take to reach the goals we have set in life will never get us there. We often act based on the knowledge we have and the level of understanding that have acquired but as I have realized as stated above, these are often not enough to get us to where we truly want to be. We need something more, guidance from someone who has greater insights. We need a mentor. But we are often held back with the illusion of arrival. Let me explain. For a new project, I was tasked with recruiting volunteers to join my team. We were just four people and needed...
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Rediscovering the Power of Circles for Growth, Friendship and Purpose

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 Have you experienced the power of people working together? “Where two or three are gathered in my name ...”—do you remember that promise? It promises that the greatest power in the universe will be available to them. That is an example of the kind of power that comes when people work together. What troubles and burdens one person is usually not much for 2 people to handle and could even be a joyful challenge to 3 or more people when they share the burden. One of life’s greatest joys is friendship. If you find people who share your values and vision and are willing to work with you, then you are blessed beyond measure. There is enormous power and accomplishment when 2 or more people work together toward a goal with a sense of dedication and commitment. If their purpose is pure, that is, it benefits them and other people and does not harm the world, then you can be sure that unimaginable success is assured. With such unity, nothing is impossible! Working together is pure joy as the ...
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Lovers of Pleasure or Lovers of God? A Sobering Self-Check

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'...lovers of pleasures rather than lovers of God....' Verse 4 (1 Timothy 3:1–5) I grew up hearing this scripture regularly read at home, in Christian meetings, and in the ministry. The message was 'God's Kingdom is near’, and this scripture was cited as evidence that we are living in the last days. I came to understand that "lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God" were people who had no place in God’s Kingdom—gluttons destined to perish with this old system. Naturally, I have always thought, "That’s not me. That’s the unbelievers. Bad, despicable people. I remember how they are depicted in the book ‘You Can Live Forever in Paradise on Earth.’  ‘Nde Aworome!’ I could never be counted among them." Tufiakwa! But this morning, as the scripture came to mind again, I reflected on the angels in Noah’s day. They left their proper place to pursue selfish pleasure. Na them! This is a true example of what it means to love pleasure more than God. Plea...
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Emotions: The Human Superpower We Often Overlook

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Emotions - Our Human Super Power! "An emotional response is wrong." "Don't be emotional." Often, when we need to make decisions we say these to ourselves or hear other people say them or some other versions of them.  Emotions are frequently vilified, dismissed as irrational, and relegated to the background in favour of logic and reason. These phrases are thrown around so often that many have come to believe emotions are a flaw—something to suppress, control, or ignore. But have you ever stopped to ask: What is wrong with emotions and emotional responses? Emotions are one of the most defining aspects of being human. Yet, they have been treated as weaknesses, and pushed to the background. People are told to rely only on reason, as if emotions have no value in decision-making. But here’s the truth: both reason and emotions are processed in the brain. Our memories are tied to emotions, stored in every part of our being. So the typical ‘heart refers to emotions’ a...
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