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In order to allay the fears and anxiety that have gripped the staff over the removal of the CEO and to assure them that their interest would be paramount to the new administration, the Acting CEO said as part of his speech ‘The more things change, the more they stay the same’. I do not know for sure whether he knew it or was just repeating a fact of life as he had observed it, but that was a quote from Bon Jovi’s song titled ‘The More Things Change’. Bon Jovi in his song highlighted the illusion of change that has gripped the world. Instead of changing for the better, the world continues to sink into the mire of the worst kind in badness and corruption. Please see below some more lines from Bon Jovi’s song: Ah, is it just me or does anybody see The new improved tomorrow isn't what it used to be Yesterday keeps comin' 'round, it's just reality It's the same damn song with a different melody The market keeps on crashin' Tattered jeans are back in fashion I te...

Do wishes come true? Many people believe it does. Some blow off candles and make a wish. Some throw coins in a fountain before doing so. Some people wish by planning; they think about the future and determine what they want accomplished. Many pray before they do. I wish and then plan; and this morning while trying to review progress made in the last month, I noticed something quite remarkable, everything I wrote down as my wish, I have accomplished; all of them or have made tremendous progress to achieving those not completed yet. That was mind-boggling! The things I wrote down that I would do for the month, I have done all of them! I then went back in time since I started using the WhatsApp page to document my plans to check out all the things I wished for. The same story: I have got them all! I could see a clear correlation between the things I wished for & wrote down and my achievements. That is no wonder because I have experienced the manifestation of things I wished & wrot...

I hear that one of the reasons women live longer than men is that they ventilate regularly - they speak out. Are you able to say how you feel to people you relate with, abi your mouth dey heavy you? Within the bounds of moderation & morality, we can greatly improve our relationships when we say it as it is. It’s hard for people to say to others ‘what you did or said or how you acted hurt my feelings, embarrassed me, or made me look stupid’. We just bottle up instead of telling our friends, brothers, acquaintances how we feel about what they have or haven’t done; said or not said. Ego (pride), Shame, Shyness, Fear, are factors that make us bottle up to our peril. Sometimes we may feel that the relationship isn’t worth it, or we may feel that we are expecting too much of the person if we opened up. At other times we are afraid the other person may make fun of our pain or blow things out of proportion and tell us straight in the face ‘go to hell, I don’t care.’ Good relations can ...

The deplorable state of Nigerian public universities was on my mind as I woke up this morning - the sadly recurring ‘unending’ strikes that make students spend more years in school than is allocated for their courses. The broken-down infrastructure in many schools pains me so badly that up till now I consciously suppress the images of the living conditions in the hostel I stayed at the University. How could humans be allowed to live in such squalor?   But superimposing that thought was something that made my eyes light up and was a bit troubling to me! Graduates from Nigerian Universities perform better at work than graduates from foreign schools! This thought shocked me and so I gave it further conscious thought to make sense of it & to prove it right or wrong.   I have worked in HR for about 11 years, 1st as a Career Management Officer and then as an Organization Design Officer, and now as a Manager. In these years I have interacted with Staff who graduated from Univer...

In the past few weeks, I have had some unpleasant encounters with 2 relatives. I found out in a most surprising way that I have not lived up to their expectations of me as a relative. I had the impression that I had been doing quite well but when things got to a head and they spoke their minds, I was a bit dumbfounded. I have reviewed the encounter and found some nuggets that I wish to share. These are a great help in navigating the treacherous terrain of human relations. In every relationship, it is essential to know what the other party expects of you. I previously wrote about ‘Unpacking Your Bags of Expectations’ in a relationship, but my focus had been on romantic relationships. And although I mentioned familial relationships, I had not really applied them to all relationships. We may be of the same parents, grew up together, and share other close family ties but we may have different ideas of what things mean. What makes one a good person? What does a family member owe another? H...